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Whether you are in a straight or gay relationship, here you can read what to expect when you have different kinds of sex.

Some people like to be in a relationship for a while before they think about having sex. They want to get to know their partner properly to feel comfortable enough to be intimate with them, while some people wait until they are married before they have sex. Many people enjoy sex without being in a relationship – you will know what you feel comfortable with.

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When you do have sex it’s important to talk about your feelings with your partner and be open and honest about what you want, and don’t want to do, sexually. It is your choice, your partner should not force you to do something you’re not comfortable doing.

The most important thing to remember is to use a condom. Many people say that they can enjoy sex more if they know they are being safe.

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.Going down', 'giving head', 'blow jobs' … there are many different ways of saying ‘oral sex’. Oral sex means using your mouth and tongue to stimulate your partners’ genitals  – but do you want to do it and are you ready? - See more at: http://www.avert.org/sex-stis/how-to-have-sex/oral-sex#sthash.Q9yhHH3m.dpuf

.Just like having sexual intercourse, it’s a big decision to start having oral sex, and it’s important that you’re ready to start exploring in this way. If someone is trying to convince you to have oral sex with lines like these then stand back and question whether you’re being pressured into it: - See more at: http://www.avert.org/sex-stis/how-to-have-sex/oral-sex#sthash.Q9yhHH3m.dpuf

“It doesn’t mean we’ve had real sex – you’ll still be a virgin.” “If you don’t want sex then you should at least go down on me.” “It’s not as risky as having intercourse.” However, oral sex can be a good way to discover new pleasures with your partner without having sexual intercourse. So if you’re happy and comfortable with the person you’re with it can be a great way to get physically closer and learn what turns each other on. - See more at: http://www.avert.org/sex-stis/how-to-have-sex/oral-sex#sthash.Q9yhHH3m.dpuf

.Some people find that when they have oral sex for the first time – whether they’re giving it or receiving it – they feel nervous. Remember that everyone is different and it takes a while to work out what makes someone feel good. - See more at: http://www.avert.org/sex-stis/how-to-have-sex/oral-sex#sthash.Q9yhHH3m.dpuf

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If a man has an erection then he is likely to be aroused enough for oral sex. However, it’s still a good idea to use your hand to touch him before you start to help work up to the sensation of oral sex.

If you’re unsure how far you want him to penetrate your mouth, use your thumb and forefinger to make a ring around his penis, stopping it as far as you want to go. You can keep moving it down slowly until you reach the point where it feels deep enough.

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Many men find oral sex (also known as ‘blow jobs’) highly sensitive, so start gently and slowly and work up to a faster pace.

Even if you decide to give a man oral sex, it doesn’t mean that you have to let him ejaculate in your mouth. Of course, if he’s wearing a condom this won’t be such an issue, and it means you will both be protected against sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and HIV. It’s also entirely up to you how long you continue for.

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.It’s usually a good idea to spend some time kissing and touching before giving a woman oral sex. Take your time to explore her upper thighs and the area around her vagina first, to help her get aroused. - See more at: http://www.avert.org/sex-stis/how-to-have-sex/oral-sex#sthash.Q9yhHH3m.dpuf

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The most sensitive part of the vagina for a woman is the clitoris, which has more than 8,000 nerve endings. But the whole pelvic area has 15,000 nerve endings, meaning it is very sensitive.1 Gently part the outer lips of the vagina and look for the vaginal opening, and the hooded clitoris just above it.

Start off softly, using a relaxed tongue to make slow movements and work up to faster movements with a firmer, pointed tongue.

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.Oral sex isn’t necessarily a safer alternative to sexual intercourse, although you can't get pregnant from oral sex. Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as herpes, gonorrhoea and syphilis can still be passed on, so using a condom or dental dam (a thin, soft plastic that covers the vagina) is still important.2 - See more at: http://www.avert.org/sex-stis/how-to-have-sex/oral-sex#sthash.Q9yhHH3m.dpuf

Although it carries a very low risk, HIV transmission is also possible from oral sex. This could happen if the person receiving oral sex has an STI or sores on their genital area, or if the person giving oral sex has sores in their mouth or bleeding gums.3 - See more at: http://www.avert.org/sex-stis/how-to-have-sex/oral-sex#sthash.Q9yhHH3m.dpuf

You should avoid having oral sex if either of you has sores around your mouth, vagina or penis. These could be a sign of an infection, so get them checked out by a healthcare professional.4 Also be aware that infections can still be passed on through oral sex even if there are no signs or symptoms of the infection.5 - See more at: http://www.avert.org/sex-stis/how-to-have-sex/oral-sex#sthash.Q9yhHH3m.dpuf

.Talking to your partner about protection before you start having oral sex will help things go more smoothly. This can be embarrassing, but it’s an important part of having sex – and if you find it too difficult to discuss then it could be a sign that you aren’t ready to start having oral sex just yet. - See more at: http://www.avert.org/sex-stis/how-to-have-sex/oral-sex#sthash.Q9yhHH3m.dpuf

.When a man and a woman have sexual intercourse – where a man’s penis enters the woman’s vagina - it is called vaginal sex. Find out more about what it is, why people do it and how to do it safely. - See more at: http://www.avert.org/sex-stis/how-to-have-sex/vaginal-sex#sthash.Z8iInWHB.dpuf

.Deciding whether to have sex is a very personal thing and there is no rule to say whether you ‘should’. The main things to consider are whether it feels right, and whether you and your partner are both sure. Our article ‘Am I ready for sex?’ will help you think about this. - See more at: http://www.avert.org/sex-stis/how-to-have-sex/vaginal-sex#sthash.Z8iInWHB.dpuf

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Vaginal sex usually starts when a man and a woman are getting sexually excited from kissing, stroking, caressing, rubbing and touching each other. You’ll often know you’re getting aroused (which means your body is preparing itself for sexual intercourse) from certain physical signs:

• for women, the vagina (the sexual opening between the legs) begins to moisten
• men get an erection, which means their penis will get bigger and harden.

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.Try not to rush things. The best approach is to enjoy each other’s bodies and make sure you’re relaxed with one another – this is called ‘foreplay’ and it’s an equally important part of sex as intercourse itself. It’s also perfectly ok not to go any further than this stage. Many couples enjoy having foreplay for a long time before they move on to having vaginal sex. - See more at: http://www.avert.org/sex-stis/how-to-have-sex/vaginal-sex#sthash.Z8iInWHB.dpuf

.If you are both ready to have vaginal sex, it’s important that foreplay lasts for long enough. If the woman is not sexually excited enough, then her vagina will not become lubricated and it will be difficult for the man's penis to enter.1 - See more at: http://www.avert.org/sex-stis/how-to-have-sex/vaginal-sex#sthash.Z8iInWHB.dpuf

.We spent ages on foreplay, kissing, fingering and lots of oral as it was both of our first times. When we did decide to have sex, we used a condom and lots of lube and he was very gentle, kept asking me if he was hurting me and how I felt. It did hurt a bit, but not as much as I was expecting.
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